She chooses second. That is the only part tradition actually asks of her, and it is easier to honour than it sounds.

These are full-length pieces in linen, ramie and silk cotton, cut to sit beside the mother of the bride rather than compete with her, in the deep botanical colours that hold their depth in strong light where pastels wash out. Each one is handmade in Bali by the artisan families who make everything here, and most of them have real pockets.

Our guide to what the mother of the groom wears covers colour, etiquette, the beach question and when to order.